Melissa is a 37 year old woman struggling with addiction. She is fighting her way through addiction with the help of the Brighton Recovery Center for Women.
In an effort to put a face on addiction, FortThomasMatters.com is documenting her journey. It’s real and raw and relevant. She is our Northern Kentucky neighbor. She is our heroine. Her story is important.
Here’s Mel:
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Part 5 of my story is about how far my drinking and
drugging, you might want to get confortable. My mother came down here packed
Morgan up and took her back to Celina, I wasn’t even there to say goodbye
because I had stolen money from my mom’s purse to get high and by the time I
got back Morgan was on her way to live a better life.
Somewhere in the mix I was introduced to crack, and it began
to dominate my every move. I couldn’t get my mind off getting more and since I
had no job the ways of getting money was to start stealing from store and
returning the items to get gift cards or just get what the dope boy
wanted. Crack took me away from everyone
and everything, it dominated my mind. I began staying at dope house that served
all day and all night long and when men came in and wanted a women I became
that girl.
Thus began a new career of prostitution. I had no home, no
car, no family. The only home I had was the streets of Over the Rhine and the
only family was the lost souls that walked them with me. I have seen things
that no human eyes should ever witness and I have done things for money that no
women should ever do especially with strangers.
Being uncomfortable became
comfortable. Each time I got into a car I took the chance of being raped or
never coming back alive and that became OK with me. Not just for me, but for
all the women whose lives that have stolen by this disease and walked the same
broken roads that I walked daily. I was in and out of jail every week; the
Hamilton County Justice Center became my address.
I can remember seeing cars that resembled my sisters and
prayed that it was her coming to rescue me. It never was.
My sister told me
that they only way she knew how to track me was by getting online and seeing my
arrest record, that was her way of knowing if I was still alive. She said one
time I hadn’t been arrested in a couple of weeks so she called records and they
informed her she might want to call the
morgue because girls like me usually don’t get found.
Sometimes you just don’t see a girl on the streets anymore, and
then you hear that their body parts have been located in different parts and or
different wooded lots. Yet I continually risked me being that girl to feed my
disease.
To know that my sister had to hear those words about her
little sister hurts my heart, I can’t even imagine how it hurt hers.
This is who I became a thief, a junkie, a prostitute and an overall
all menace to society. Daily necessities became a thing of the past. Things we
take for granted like bathing, brushing your teeth, running water, your own
clothes, toilet paper, soap, electricity and knowing where you are going to lay
your head. Sleeping became a luxury I no longer had; the disease of addiction
does not have time to sleep. I stayed in abandon buildings that had nothing but
the reminisce of whoever lived their prior. A change of clothes came when they
were found or when I had stolen then from some John’s house.
I have had things done to me that I would rather not discuss
but if you think it could have happened it, believe me it did. I adapted to my
surroundings, this life style overtook the daughter, the mother, the sister,
and the friend I once was. I became an animal trying to survive in a place I
did not belong. I had literally sold my soul to the devil.
In 2004 I got a possession and did my time at Talbert House
waiting for a bed at Chaney Allen Treatment Center. I was finally introduced to
some type of understanding of who I was and I wasn’t alone. I was introduced to
Alcoholics Anonymous. Thank God AA comes into jails and institutions to give
people like me some hope.
A woman came in and gave her lead I heard my story coming
out of someone else’s mouth. She had felt the same way I had and she had a
‘him” also. She was once as lost as I was but yet here she stood in a jail
willingly sharing her experience. I saw a glimpse of hope and asked her to
sponsor me. She took me to Chaney Allen where I would spend 3 more months to
find myself again, to learn how my perception of life had been screwed up since
I was a child, to work the steps of AA with my sponsor, to go to meetings, to
become a part of something positive.
My sponsor said I should begin believing in something bigger
than me. She never told me who or what just some type of Higher Power. I knew
this meant it was time for a long talk with God.
I began to get happy again and started to see the light. I
got to see my mom and Morgan again for the first time in years. Life got good.
However it didn’t last long, when I got my 6 month coin in
sobriety I had just relapsed and spent the next 2 years back in Over the Rhine.
The vicious cycle had begun again.
In 2006 I had many misdemeanors and a theft charge that put
me back in Talbert House for 5 months. I was released in March and went
directly back downtown, but knew in my heart it was not going to last long. On
April 11th of 2007 I had no idea this would be the beginning of a
journey of soul searching and lifestyle changes. I had found that life didn’t
have to be so miserable and I deserved to be happy. I was about to actually get
it this time and find out the meaning of true happiness.
